Alive

I would not have imagined my life like this a year ago today.

So very many things have happened in just one year.

I have learned that trusting my gut will sometimes lead me right into the hurt I needed to feel the very most.

I have learned that placing people on a pedestal can shatter your dreams and lead to disillusionment.

I have learned who really truly has my back when the lights go out.

I have learned that I can be the very kind of person I think I'm not.

I have learned that possessions mean nothing, and that those fixated on them can never understand that.

I have learned I don't wish for the artist life, but rather I hope to live simply and with joy.

I have learned that depression can sneak up on me and change how I see everything in a blink of the eye.

I have learned that my capacity for survival is unrivalled. 

I have learned that I would rather be "wrong" then look like an idiot fighting over being "right". 

I have learned that I genuinely want a partner to share my life with and enjoy the small things; but that I'm not willing to change who I am to have that.

I don't know any more what I want to be when I grow up.

I know I will always write, paint, take pictures...but that will be for the love of doing it, not the pursuit of wealth or fame or a name.

A year ago today, I ran into the world with bright eyes...leaving behind what I thought was oppressing me and stopping me from "living my dream". 

Today, I sit in awe of the road I have travelled. The hopes that shattered around me, the huge failures and the major beating my heart has taken...

And I am thankful.

I am filled with gratitude.

For I am still alive.

Bruised, battered, beaten and unsure...yes...all of these and more.

Yet I still have so much more love in me to give. I still have a fight to survive and get healthy. I still have hope that my companion will find me. I still have the desire to run through the woods, paddle down a stream, dig my toes in the sand and my fingers in soot....

I am still alive.

Ending an Era

I recently had the pleasure of sitting and listening to how someone loves what I do. 

"I love your photography..." It started.

I politely said thank you. 

"I have wanted you to do mine for a while, but you're too expensive."

I smiled politely, waiting for what I know comes next.

"I know a photographer who offered to do mine for forty bucks."

"Wow," I said, "that's a really great deal. You should go with that."

Ever since I have picked up a camera and called it mine, I come across this recurring theme. Walmart does portraits for $20. My buddy does pictures for free.

Or the opposite...I'm too cheap. I should charge more...funny that one usually comes from people that have zero intention of actually hiring me though!

I sat down and figured it out once, the hours, supplies, equipment, editing software...man...I've got me one expensive hobby. If I sold everything today, as is...I could likely pay for some food, or a months rent.

And why don't I?

Everyone knows a photographer. Everyone IS a photographer. 

Who am I to ask for $5 an hour?

So, this is an end to an era. I am moving forward and putting the "photographer phase" behind me. I'll keep it as my warm little hobby that makes me happy. I will no longer pretend that it was viable or something to live off of. It was a beautiful dream, where those who keep telling me "you can do it" are right. 

For those that insist I can do both, I assure you, I cannot. I'm the sort who needs to throw my all into something for it to work. 

I've decided feeding myself is a better option.

I am changing my Facebook page to ElizaBeth Art, which it rightfully should have been. 

I will refer portraits to the appropriate places, as is my duty as an honest artist. 

Thank you everyone who has and continues to support me in all my adventures !!

Namaste

No Mercy

Then she stood up, a stooping sweep from hunched to ascending.

Her head fitting under the crown that had hovered just out of reach.

Her shoulders broadening to match the curve of her fur-lined velvet cape.

Because, it had always been there. Not to rule over anyone or anything.

 No.

It had been there as a station birthed into her. The rightful place of her own esteem.

For she was never a beggar at the table of life,

She had simply lost her way.

She had forgotten that her fingers could shine in polished pleasure, and that would be enough to smile.

She had closed her eyes and stretched out her hand, pleading for a morsel of her own creativity.

Covered in tattered linen, she had fallen asleep and allowed need to consume her. 

And that was all there,

Hanging in shreds as she looked up. 

Because all she had ever needed to do was stand...up.

Own the respect she held.

Stand under the light of knowing she was worthy, and had no reason for the filth of shame.

So she did.

And her throat lost the dust that begging had collected there.

Her eye opened.

Her crown shining with a diamond only meant for her.

Her stomach untied, forgetting the taste of starvation.

Her painted toes dug in from the root.

Both in form and in spirit, the wind beneath her settled to lift her away, and possibly place her gently where she could live free.

Forgetting the Way

Maybe we forgot the way...

The way it feels to laugh from the belly.

How free we are when we swing or jump stone to stone beside a river.

Maybe we forgot about being silly or telling stories.

We lost our shower-singing voices.

We got too busy to notice the chipmunk or stare out across a purple-flowered field and sigh.

Maybe we lost our way,

The noise of news and gossip dulling our ears. So we didn't hear the sparrow tell us how pretty she is.

Maybe work consumed the appreciation we had for the weeping willow, and we forgot how to find her comforting roots.

 And maybe the couch became our resting place, no stream to skip rocks across.

It could be we simply became too tired to watch the sun set. Glimpses of her majesty just a reflection in the rear view mirror.

The creeping time swallows up the memories of long walks, and graffiti covers the bridges we sat under.

Maybe we just forgot the way to be.

We didn't see the boy and his swan or the laughter in the eyes of our pirates. We didn't sit all night with an 8 day free man. Because we didn't have the time...

Or did we?

Did we have all the time in the world? 

And maybe just forgot to breathe in. 

Maybe it's time to remember...and remember well who we are.

Deepening

I do not want to feel like I'm hurting you.

My head down, staring at the way the sun shines off my nail-polished big toe.

There is zero parts of me that is okay with these thoughts.

Since I have been hurt, so bad and so deep, that the scars stare back at me in my bathroom mirror through the tears that can't even be bothered to fall any more. 

But when I see you, I also see all the reasons I wish you would know how much I cannot hope. 

How safe in my skin behind my scars I feel. How even just the idea of bringing you into my world makes me want to scream: 

"No! Turn back! You won't like it here!!"

I love watching you, and hearing the vibrations of your voice, even when the words have no meaning to me. 

I want to tell you about the knife I keep hidden under my skin. The one I use to cut myself with over and over. I want to tell you how surprised I was when I found it there, for I had always assumed it was others doing the stabbing. But you see, it was always me. 

I'd tell you about the day I discovered that, and how all the faces I blamed just disappeared. All that remained was the shame of my revelation, and the peace from knowing I didn't have to use it any more.

More then that, I want to walk along a river, and hear the way our feet fall on the pebbles and rocks. I want to listen to the stars sing, and know you hear them too.

I wish you could see that there is nothing about me that can be contained any more. That the fears from my past have fallen away, leaving me bare and wide open on a windy day. And I'm okay with being alone in my bed, as long as I know I share the love I can't contain with those who need me the very most.

One of the things I would whisper to the mountain peaks, is "Do not tell me this is it, for I've only just come to see. Do not tell me I must write the final chapter, not yet, for I have only just begun to understand."

And you, I would tell you-

I don't have any answers, but I will listen to your questions.

I don't have any solutions, but I will stand along the sidelines cheering you on.

My feet are firmly planted in the garden from which I have grown, but if you look up, you will see me soaring above with a freedom I cannot allow anyone to stifle.

So, please do not feel as if I am hurting you. That is a thought I could not bear. 

As I stare down at my toes, I wish for a moment I knew the path to guide them on.

But as the thought passes through, I smile, and give thanks for the comforting bliss of not knowing.

Perfectly Being

I think when I began the journey to finding peace and joy in life, I thought there was going to be some kind of "sign" or heavenly orchestra that would let me know I had "made it."

I thought all my sadness would end and life would turn into this cake-walk of riches and husband and happy little home by the river. 

I had this image of dancing lightly with whatever remainder of years there were.

In the self-help books I read, it seemed so simple and achievable. These terribly broken people became rich and famous doing what they liked...so why couldn't I? All I had to do was put in the effort, and BAM...dreams do come true....right?!?!?!?!?

After wading through the last few years of ever increasing futility.

After reading, searching, finding the light and learning how to navigate it...

What do I have to show for it?

I'm single. Broke. People don't want to book their portraits with me. I have no idea if I will continue to slug it out alone or if I will admit that maybe it's time to try a different career. I could seriously become depressed.

Yet, I'm not.

With great peace and clarity, I realized that I didn't do all that work for nothing. I'm actually ok.

I'm alright with being single, because even though I would love to fall asleep with comfortable arms holding me-

I have learned that my own company is enough. That I deserve to be loved in a manner fitting me, not in a way that gives me company but leaves me feeling hollow and unwanted.

I'm okay with being broke, I know my needs will be met when the time comes. Having nothing only makes me appreciate what I do have that much more.

It's fine that people are taking their time booking with me. I know that those who need me will find me when the timing is right.

I am open to a different career, if an opportunity presents itself that feels right.

There is no depression, because when I am blue, I recognize the sadness and let it go. It has a right to be, so I'm no longer struggling against it.

So all the work I have put in IS paying off. Perhaps not in the way I wanted it to, or dreamed it would be. But I'm not dead yet either.

Other benefits have come along the way.

Such as I feel free, and beautiful. 

At 37, I can look at a photograph of myself or in the mirror and smile. I see my worth. I can openly love others without taking their issues on as my own. I am not weighed down with regret or guilt.

It was all worthwhile, even today-

That doesn't mean I'm all filled with roses and kitten fur. Not at all.

I am dark and stinky. I have anger that boils to the edges and rages in the dark. But I don't live there any more. Instead I look at these and say, "hey, that's not who I am, so you can be done now." I am not ashamed of it, because it is just another part of life. 

I feel jealousy and doubt. But I refuse to let it control me or change what I know to be true. This means I won't deny or confirm the words these emotions whisper. 

I realized that no enlightenment trumpet is going to sound. The dreams of reaching a goal and riding out the rest of life is never going to happen.

I also realized I'm okay with that. The little epiphanies and shameful truths will continue to speckle my days with laughter and tears.

I don't think it's about being perfect.

I think it's about perfectly being...and that means accepting every tiny bit of up and down along the way.

Flow

There is nothing quite like sitting in the sun by a waterfall. It soothes away the rough edges and warms the soul. Like placing a smile upon the blanket that wraps the heart.

I don't enjoy battling my body. Yet I find the struggle real, forgetting to just let it wash away.

I don't enjoy feeling blue. Yet it takes me to dark places so that I can find a way to let them flow freely.

Now and then, it must be important to just sit. It must be real, with the wind and back spray brushing my hair and speckling my glasses. The warmth from the outside oozing in to relax my furrowed brow. 

Now and then I remember. Life isn't really that difficult, it just seems so while I'm beating my head against the rocks. 

And maybe there is no tomorrow...

But today, 

Well today I'll find that everything is just the way it ought to be.